Self Reflection

30 Questions To Ask Yourself


It’s the beginning of a brand new year and as usual in January, we are hoping that this fresh and shiny year will provide us new opportunities and often a bit of a fresh start and to shake off the dust from the year before.

I recently came across this great article in INC which posed 30 questions that will help you gain the clarity you will need to make 2019 the best year yet!

Have a look at these questions.

See if you can go through and answer them systematically to get a picture of where you have come from and where you want to be.

1.      What was the best part of 2018?

2.      What was the worst part?

3.      What areas of your life are working well?

4.      What areas of your life are suffering?

5.      What did you learn this past year?

6.      How did this shift your perspective about life in general?

7.      What is your definition of success?

8.      Have you achieved this thus far?

9.      If not, what needs to change in your life in order for you to create your own version of success?

10.  Are you happy at work?

11.  Do you feel challenged by the thinking and problem solving that you're most often doing at work?

12.  Do you feel that you're making an impact on others at work that is meaningful to you?

13.  Do you feel confident about yourself and your contribution at work?

14.  Do you believe in your ability to grow and learn at all times?

15.  Do you face failures with curiosity?

16.  Do you think you're resilient?

17.  What have been your biggest failures in 2018 and what have you learned from them?

18.  Based on your answers from numbers 10-17, what behaviours do you think you need to build in order to improve your performance at work for next year?

19.  Which relationships deepened this past year?

20.  Which relationships shifted or ended?

21.  What was the reason for the deepening or the erosion of some of your closest relationships?

22.  What changes in yourself can you make to be a better friend to those that matter most?

23.  How would you describe your marriage or long-term relationship?

24.  How could you improve in how you engage with your partner?

25.  If you're single and dating, how have you been showing up to potential partners?

26.  If you're single and not dating, how would you describe your relationship to yourself?

27.  What would you want to change when it comes to how you engage with your partner and yourself?

28.  What is the most important area of focus for 2019?

29.  What is a theme or word that you could choose that would keep you focused and excited about the year ahead?

30.  Create a vision statement about what the year ahead could look like for you in order to feel like you're moving forward in life in a way that is meaningful for you.


Want some help setting some personal or professional goals for 2019. Contact Michelle on 0412047590 or via michelle@bakjacconsulting, or check here to review Bakjac Consulting’s website for more information.

Michelle Bakjac is an experienced Psychologist, Organisational Consultant, Coach, Speaker and Facilitator. As Director of Bakjac Consulting, she is a credentialed Coach with the International Coach Federation (ICF) and a member of Mental Toughness Partners and an MTQ48 accredited Mental Toughness practitioner. Michelle assists individuals and organisations to develop their Mental Toughness to improve performance, leadership, behaviour and wellbeing.



"One Word"

Well it’s the middle of January (already) and I wonder how many people have already given up on their New Year’s Resolutions.

Every year, we engage in this ritual. We pick a single point in time each year to try and make a huge life decision, (usually with little thought or planning). We aim to change our attitudes and our behavior through a brief moment of reflection at 11:55pm on New Year’s Eve and expect that will suffice to allow us to reach our lofty goal. Yeah right!!

It would seem that our three most popular goals are 1) getting fit, 2) lose weight and 3) quit smoking. Yet within a month of setting these goals, we have tossed them by the wayside, some of us with a little twang of guilt.

According to research, most people — 75 percent — who make a resolution fail on their first attempt and most people — 67 percent — make more than one resolution.

Why not try something different this year!

Why not just undertake the reflective task of setting yourself “one word”. One big, contextual word for the year. That’s right, no resolutions, no SMART goals, just one word that is meaningful for you and what you want to achieve for the year ahead.

I recently finished reading “The Game Changer” by Dr Jason Fox. If you get the chance it’s a great read and fantastic for change management and motivation. Dr Fox talks about contextual momentum. This is getting the balance right between specific goals and open possibilities while still moving forward and making progress. He recognises that it is great to have small crisp action steps that give you daily and weekly traction. You can also plan for monthly and even quarterly goals, however when you start to plan longer term than that, things are not as easy and we can’t necessarily see that far out. There are too many factors we can’t yet use our crystal ball for. What we can do is set “one word”. One word against which we can measure all of the plans and goals we set for ourselves for that year.

If we are going to use the 1st January each year as a time for reflection, it certainly is a great time to hit the reset button. What do you want the coming year to represent for you. What “one word” will exemplify your contextual goal for the year. Then every time you set yourself a new goal, or a new project – you can measure it against your one word.

Now don’t go for the obvious here ok!! I know it sounds logical to pick the first word that comes into your head. But don’t do that! This takes time, reflection. Your word will be with you for a whole 12 months. Make it count. Consider: What do you want to achieve this year? Do you have a BHAG (Big Hairy Audacious Goal)? Or is this year about consolidation and sustaining what you have? Your word has to instantly represent to you what you want and how you will achieve it.

It took me days to come up with my word. In starting a new venture, I felt both courageous and fearful at the same time. I wanted a word that would give me guts and make me feel brave and just keep me going. Now having four kids, you can’t avoid animated movies. One of the favorites in our house is called “Spirit”. It’s about a horse who travels across the plains of the wild west to return to his family. He overcomes seemingly insurmountable obstacles on his way to achieve his goal. (If you get a chance to see it, indulge, it really is great and having Bryan Adams do the score is an added bonus). So after much soul searching, I had decided on my one word. Spirit! How could I demonstrate spirit every day, how could I keep getting up and demonstrate grit, mental toughness, courage and the will to keep going to achieve my goal and still be focused on my family and my values. So, now I have my word. I hope that with every SMART goal I set, every plan I make, every decision and every negotiation, I remember my one word.

My family has not escaped my excitement over this concept either. They were all set the task of coming up with their own “one word” that represented what they wanted to achieve so far.   So my family’s choice of words is Grow, Strive, Force, Attention and Lion. And for each of them, their word means something real and tangible for them. And we all know each other’s word. This will hold us accountable not only to ourselves, but also to each other.

So…… Now it’s your turn. What will your “one word” be. What will your one word be that you measure all goals against for this year. Have a go. Think about it carefully. Once you have it, toss it around in your head for a day or so and make sure it fits you like a good pair of jeans. Then use a whole A4 page and print out your word and put it on the fridge. Now you’re ready. Go for it. Achieve everything your word represents.